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During the pandemic, I took the unexpected free time to purge my closets of stuff. It took many days.
When I returned to shopping in thrift stores, which I love to do, I realized that each item, however affordable, had an added cost of time.
I would need to find a place for this thing in my home and then tend to dusting it, or replacing it’s batteries, or fixing it if it broke or getting rid it when I was done with it’s use.
I bought less… for a spell. I admit I still love stuff and definitely bought physical presents for people this year. But there’s something magical about gifts of experiences.
Ram Dass says, “If you think you are enlightened, go spend a week with your family.”
The holidays are coming up, and I know for many of us it’s a good time to consider how we hold ourselves through interpersonal strife.
I took a lovely class with small business advisor Jaime Pulliam on conflict resolution this week, and I want to share some of the insights with you.
Welcome to December! 2025 is soon to be complete.
As always at the start of the month, I offer a free Tarot reading to help you set your compass for the month.
This month is about being bold in your decisions, a theme I often recite in these newsletters.
If you find value in the questions and directions of these Friday gifts, I hope you will share them with a friend who might enjoy them as well.
I spent this last week visiting old friends in my home town of San Diego, CA. I am lucky to have grown up in a lovely warm place, but the trip was less about sun and more about chosen family.
Each person I visited has known me for decades. My oldest friend and I shared a 40 year anniversary this week.
Some of my community only recently started their own families, while others are at a point that their kids are moving into college and careers and adulthood.
There were multiple heart-opening family events this week.
There’s something about the hullabaloo of summer followed by the resettling of September running right into the Halloween costumes of October (which is a busy month for tarot readers) that just makes me grateful to arrive at November.
I feel like November is a time to catch my breath before the swirl of hectic December holidays.
In the same way that we make intentions for a new year, let’s make some intentions for this month ahead.
Samhain (pronounced Sau-wen) is a high holiday that honors our ancestors.
My costume troupe will share a silent dinner on Sunday. We will bring photos of our dead beloveds and make an altar.
Once seated with food, we will send a plate around the table where each person will add to the meal for our ancestors. . .
I have been a costume nerd for over 25 years. This includes spending much of my free time over the last decade being a part of Risk of Change, a sacred mummer ambiance troupe that wow’s at Oregon Country Fair and at paid gigs around Portland.
Despite closets full of costume options, I still sometimes get that last minute anxious panic as to what I am going to be for Halloween. Luckily, I love the creative journey that this panic takes me on, and I want to offer you some ways to access or enhance your own perfect costume this year.
Over the last two weeks, I have finally completed a project that I procrastinated for over 3 years. I am relieved and exhausted.
During the long era of paralyzed delay, the anxiety around my failure to take action on it felt like a tight grip around my chest. Whenever the subject was brought up, I would slip into a shame spiral of sighs and grumbles.
Sometimes you swirl around in avoidance of a task, only to find that it is way easier and less time consuming than you expected.
This was not that case.
A fellow Tarot reader and I were recently hired for a 10-year-old’s birthday party for a girl who loves witches. My colleague read cards while I taught an age-appropriate lesson about how to be a good witch.
I asked the group of fresh faces, “So, what do you think about witches?”
Each girl repeated a similar sentiment:
“Well, I used to think they were scary and bad but then I learned that a lot of witches are good.”
I asked them, “What do you think witchcraft is about?”
One of the first answers floored me . . .
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