Tag: healthy selfish

Self Care is Community Care

Even in this individualistic Western culture, many of us were taught to put others ahead of ourselves.

At first, this switch felt selfish to me.

Then, I witnessed my loving friends drain their vivacity in over-giving.

I saw how people came to rely on them and slowed their own self-reliance.

I saw the givers become resentful and sometimes shut off the support completely. 

The tarot has a lot of cards about balance, and this is an area that often is skewed for many of us. 

It’s essential that you show up for others, yes. It’s also imperative that you offer what feels sustainable so there’s energy left over for your own growth.