Receiving is as Sacred as Giving

Today is about the 6 of Pentacles, the card of healthy giving and receiving. (Lightseers Tarot version in image above)

Many of us want to give and give and give, but then struggle to welcome in the gifts others share.

Imagine you hand someone a present, and they reject it. Even if politely said, it stings a bit.

You may know their refusal is coming from a place of their own guilt or insecurity, but the energy you are emitting out is not being taken in. 

That’s why it’s the most kind thing to say thank you and welcome the present or the compliment or the useful offering with a simple, ‘Thank you’. 

If you truly do not want what is given, you can naturally deflect it. I have sent out previous posts about the art of saying no. This one is about saying yes to the support that can be welcomed. 

An even more powerful subject in this field is the art of asking for support if you desire it. 

When you are bold enough to tell your loved ones that you could use their help, it’s a statement of healthy vulnerability and trust. 

This very week in 2011, I had a double rollover car accident. Afterward, I felt very alone and was frustrated at the lack of community checking in on me. 

Months later, I expressed my hurt to various friends. Each of them were shocked and saddened that they didn’t realize that I needed community at that time. 

I didn’t reach out, I didn’t ask. The Facebook post said I was ‘unscathed’, they figured I was fine. 

My friends expressed disappointment that I didn’t directly contact them, and I realized that my stoic upbringing led to a missed opportunity. 

I hope you won’t make the same mistake when you crave help. 

Here are some steps to improving your ability to receive support: 

– Consider some help you would like right now. Think about who would be the best fit for this support. 

– Ask by checking in first on the timing. Ex: ‘Hey there, I realize that I can use some of your unique assistance in a situation. I am wondering if you might be available anytime in the upcoming weeks to lend me a hand?’

– If they can’t, graciously accept their refusal. Understand that people are busy and this may not be the best time. Move on to the next person who could be a good fit. 

– If they can and do help, remember that you only need to say ‘Thank You’ so much. Know that simply feeling the gratitude and giving it sincerely a few times is enough in most cases.

– Try to not unnecessarily apologize. This can put the burden on them in managing your guilt around it. Let them feel good about helping you.

– Do not over offer a quid pro quo (this for that). You can offer it once, and if they say no, move on. The ball is in their court to take you up on your return offer after it has been put out there. 

– If they do go above and beyond, see if they welcome a meal or small gesture as a thank you, or send them a thank you card. 

If you know someone who could use this message, hit the share button just after this newsletter. 

Open someone up to better receiving when you bring them in for a Tarot Together session.

Treat yourself when you reach out for the kind of support that a personal tarot reading can offer.

Get in touch with your own resistance to blessings during an intuition coaching session.

Welcome your community to receive magic at your next party when you hire a tarot or palm reader from Portlandia Fortune Tellers. 

This weekend, treat yourself to a ponder on how you can ask and receive better from others this weekend.

Let Goodness In, 

Jenna Lynne Roberts

Present Path Tarot

Portlandia Fortune Tellers