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Make a Meaningful November
There’s something about the hullabaloo of summer followed by the resettling of September running right into the Halloween costumes of October (which is a busy month for tarot readers) that just makes me grateful to arrive at November.
I feel like November is a time to catch my breath before the swirl of hectic December holidays.
In the same way that we make intentions for a new year, let’s make some intentions for this month ahead.
Consider which of these questions ignite curiosity, and focus on one or two for a focused ponder or a short journal entry.
What do you want to accomplish in the month of November that feels possible and satisfying, without being overwhelming?
Are you able to explore a more leisurely pace this month?
What ways can you step into a new rhythm that serves you best as we move toward the slower winter season?
What can you do this month that would prepare you for 2026 a little bit ahead of time?
If you’re currently tired, is there a way you can prioritize rest and put aside progress this month? What are the bare essentials to achieve “good enough”, wrapped in a blanket of ease?
Can you ask others for support in your goals? Who could help with what tasks? Would offering compensation make it easier for you to get help?
If spiritual guidance may help you deepen into any of these questions, signup for a personal tarot reading with me.
Welcome listening to your whole self to find your own best questions to ask during an intuition coaching session.
Prioritize quality time with a friend when you come in for a Tarot Together session.
Make November a bit more fun when you hire a tarot or palm reader from Portlandia Fortune Tellers.
Enjoy the Respite,
Jenna Lynne Roberts
Free Tarot Reading for Samhain / Halloween
Samhain (pronounced Sau-wen) is a high holiday that honors our ancestors.
My costume troupe will share a silent dinner on Sunday. We will bring photos of our dead beloveds and make an altar.
Once seated with food, we will send a plate around the table where each person will add to the meal for our ancestors.
For an allotted time of about 20 minutes, we sit in silence while eating. This is for us to appreciate our memories of those who came before us and the gift of food while we still exist in this corporeal form.
After, we likely will share stories of those who have graced our lives and moved on to the other side.
It is a lovely way to celebrate life, both of those that have passed and to express real gratitude for the experience of being in this body for a spell.
I hope you will take a moment this weekend to make use of this time when the veils are thin. Speak to a loved one who has passed and relish this physical earth suit with it’s array of senses.
Make the most of this life when you sign up for a personal tarot reading.
Enjoy senses beyond the standard five when you you join an intuition coaching session with me.
Share sacred time with a living loved one when you come in for a Tarot Together reading.
As we move into the season for staying inside, invite friends over and hire a tarot or palm reader with Portlandia Fortune Tellers to entertain. We offer in-person entertainment in the Portland and Salem areas and with online experiences.
Scroll on for a free tarot reading for the month of November.
Blessed Be,
Jenna Lynne Roberts
Free Reading for November
Deck: Trionfi della Luna Tarot
Our many desires in the Seven of Cups makes us spread ourselves too thin and set our ideals too high. That’s a rough combination that lends to an anxious mind in the 9 of Swords.
If you are struggling with sleep, the 9 of Swords is a message to prioritize your bedtime routine. Go to bed early and turn off your screen. Maybe enjoy some relaxing tea and read a boring book to find your best snooze.
The yawning Knight of Pentacles is further driving this message of getting your Z’s on proper every night.
He also is a message to slow down and get grounded in building routines that manage the stress of all the things you want to create in the 7 of Cups. Step by step, you can move toward your goals.
The Page of Swords reversed above him wants you to restructure the mental approach to the tasks you want to accomplish.
If you are starting your path toward your heart’s goals with a negative mindset of not feeling capable or good enough, then you won’t enjoy the journey of creation ahead.
Lean into the practicals of being positive and reasonable as you set forth on your essential steps with a long-term plan in mind. Give yourself time, pace the projects out like a good Knight of Pentacles.
From the 7 of Cups we go to the 6 of Cups, which leans into nostalgia and childhood. This message adds a layer of allowing for your dreamy goals to be approached from a realm of play and curiosity. Leave perfection behind and let yourself daydream on the wisdom of ages past.
The King of Cups means that your heart will be fulfilled if you allow it to be a part of the goals and dreams you are calling into reality with your Knight of Pentacles practical plans. He reminds us that the experience of growth is best done when our emotions and creativity are seen as valuable aspects of the process.
TLDR summary: Reign in the overwhelm and the worry and grumpy vibes around the things you want to create in life. Lean into the practical plans. Value nostalgia and your emotional, creative heart as a part of the process.
Sign up this month for a tarot reading to figure out what your best next steps and wisest angle of approach come from.
Uplevel Your Costume (or Find Your Idea)
I have been a costume nerd for over 25 years. This includes spending much of my free time over the last decade being a part of Risk of Change, a sacred mummer ambiance troupe that wow’s at Oregon Country Fair and at paid gigs around Portland.
Despite closets full of costume options, I still sometimes get that last minute anxious panic as to what I am going to be for Halloween. Luckily, I love the creative journey that this panic takes me on, and I want to offer you some ways to access or enhance your own perfect costume this year.
Here is a tips and tricks variety package:
Monsters: As I have written a longer post about before, one of the most powerful ways to make the most of this holiday is to meditate on the inner monster you are ready to release this year.
When I had eczema, I did an itchy character. When my feminist self needed to express the societal shadow, I became a creepy old guy.
Consider journaling or meditating on what irks you the most right now and needs expression, and then go thrifting to find the parts.
Mimicry: I bet you can do a pretty great impersonation of one of your parents or siblings. Take it to a next level and go full caricature of their archetype. Or, go classic celebrity and enjoy the night in character. I loved being Björk all night long, and mish-mashed my own silly mess of colors and jewelry that I think capture her weird.
Reverse Engineer: Rather than have an idea and seek it out, go into your closet and pull out anything that sparkles your sense of character until you find the costume that makes you laugh the most.
Gender Play: My troupe is quite queer, and I love trying out my drag king. Allow yourself to fully own it. Relish the stockings or your new mustache. Welcome your inner feminine or masculine to be present. Please don’t use this outfit to mock those who found their truth in a different gender than they were assigned. That is so pre-RuPaul gauche. Instead experience exploring another aspect of yourself. You contain multitudes!
Twins: Anytime two people wear the same thing on purpose, a costume is born. There is also safety in numbers. If you want to do something that strikes the edge of your comfort zone, get a friend to join you and bravery becomes play. This is also easy to reverse engineer if you hit the off-price department chains with your buddy to find a matching outfit.
Go Full Scary: Freak people out playfully. Do something that makes people’s skin crawl. Bring the spooky. Be grody.
(Note: you can do this and STILL be consensual and stay safe. If you go into Jackass prank territory, you might get consequences you don’t want but perhaps deserve. You can walk the line without being a jerk).
Improve a Basic Costume: Go dig out some old item you once wore and consider how you can add a layer to it with creative accoutrements. Make a mash up or a portmanteau. Bring a character to the clothes.
Honor the Dead: Which dead celebrity do you want to represent? My friend had a Paul Reubens party the year he passed (Rest in Play, PeeWee). I went for a deep cut as his 30 Rock character, Prince Gerhardt. That party was one of the highlights of my whole year, as everyone brought such great effort to their outfits.
i am pretty darn booked through Samhain, so we will have to wait until November on a personal tarot reading to help you look at your own inner demons.
Bring that twin with you to a Tarot Together session sometime.
Tis the season for some inward explorations that an intuition coaching session is all about.
Snazz up your party when you hire a tarot or palm reader from Portlandia Fortune Tellers. I am excited to say that we are nearly all booked up for two major party nights this year!
Have a safe and fun Halloween! Feel free to send me photos of your costume! I love seeing the ideas people come up with.
Get Spooky,
Jenna Lynne Roberts
Defeating Your Draggin’ Dragon
Over the last two weeks, I have finally completed a project that I procrastinated for over 3 years. I am relieved and exhausted.
During the long era of paralyzed delay, the anxiety around my failure to take action on it felt like a tight grip around my chest. Whenever the subject was brought up, I would slip into a shame spiral of sighs and grumbles.
Sometimes you swirl around in avoidance of a task, only to find that it is way easier and less time consuming than you expected.
This was not that case. I have worked diligently on this for nearly two weeks, putting in around 60 – 70 hours on it.
This naturally would have been more reasonable to spread out over a longer period of time. However, I only got fully charged up after I found a person to assist me, and she starts a new job next week.
I am so grateful that I found amazing support in a compassionate and grounded professional to help me get this done. I wonder if I could have accomplished this years ago if I had simply made greater effort to seek out skilled support sooner.
Regardless of woulda-shoulda-coulda’s, it is complete, and I am free of that particular weight.
Last night, I had a dream about removing this monster from myself . . . uhhhh . . . quite literally. (Full dream story available upon request. it’s too creepy and gross to share without consent.) This made clear that my subconscious is also doing some house cleaning from my efforts.
Today, I want to share some tips to break through procrastination that *actually* helped me. I have tried many many suggestions, and it seems that my draggin’ dragon will blow fire or slink around most.
Body Doubling: Whenever I hear this term, I think of a fantasmagoric film like Dead Ringers, or The Substance. But okay, that’s the term I guess we’re collectively going with for a surprisingly helpful tool.
It’s insane how much better I work when I have another person in the room with me doing their own work. If we make an agreement of what we are each working on, and can take timed little breaks to vent without going into overtime, it’s pure anxiety gold.
“Baby step onto the elevator… baby step into the elevator… I’m in the elevator.” : What about Bob? is one of my favorite comedies. It’s directed by one of my hero artists: Frank Oz of the early Muppets. Second, it actually has great therapeutic advice that I have used in my life to take risks.
The key foundation of the guidance of Dr. Leo is to break down your overwhelm into manageable parts, and eat the challenge piecemeal.
Bite Size Time Bites: On that note, only require yourself to work on it for 10 minutes at a time.
I used this trick to get myself doing workout YouTubes. After 10 minutes, I found myself happy to do more, and was delighted to see myself sweating for 40 minutes or more.
Friends with Similar Problems: As mentioned, I likely would have accomplished this sooner had I reached out to my community to find my skilled and paid support.
You also can find a friend to do a trade with, checking in weekly or monthly to see how each of you are progressing. When they make progress, it can inspire you and make it all seem more possible.
When a Deadline is a Lifeline: Create a time that this task must be done by, and create reasons WHY so you believe it.
I tried to just time block in my calendar, but would ignore it without reasoning behind it. Once I knew why the date mattered, I was more on it.
Messy is Better than Perfect: Start sloppy just to get it in motion. If your anxiety is around how it’s not good enough, then celebrate a very rough start over no start at all.
Compassion and Knowledge Abolishes Fear: The people who helped me overcome my shame were the ones who had knowledge of the challenge and helped me see why my fears were common but overblown. They knew better from experience and I so believed them.
The others were the people who simply said, hey, that’s understandable and you don’t need to feel bad about it. Let’s talk about your fear some more to unravel it.
I would love to be one of those supportive people for you during a personal tarot reading.
You can also have a friend hold your hand through the tough questions during a Tarot Together session.
Tune into your own mind and body to see through what holds you back with an intuition coaching session.
Take a break from the anxiety when you hire a tarot or palm reader from Portlandia Fortune Tellers for your upcoming event. Halloween nights are filling up, so get your quote today!
Hope you have a lovely weekend of getting some good stuff done and resting as well.
You Got This,
Jenna Lynne Roberts
Everything is Witchcraft
A fellow Tarot reader and I were recently hired for a 10-year-old’s birthday party for a girl who loves witches. My colleague read cards while I taught an age-appropriate lesson about how to be a good witch.
I asked the group of fresh faces, “So, what do you think about witches?”
Each girl repeated a similar sentiment:
“Well, I used to think they were scary and bad but then I learned that a lot of witches are good.”
I asked them, “What do you think witchcraft is about?”
One of the first answers floored me:
“I think it’s about trusting yourself.”
I had written down that very idea as a part of the lesson. I didn’t expect to hear it reflected so quickly. I was delighted to hear from a young person’s voice how understanding around witches has improved.
This story relates back to ancient mythology. If you look at the history of the feminine divine, her representation was twisted through centuries.
She began as whole and complex, and slowly turned into females who were either good or bad, dark or light.
The witch became associated with the darkness, despite the wide array of people who she belonged to.
What is the danger of the witch?
She listens to the signs of nature around her. She is respectful of and tuned in to a form of wisdom that no middle man between her and the divine can own. She trusts herself.
The witch is a dangerous figure to those who would want to wield power to the detriment of those she loves. Thus burning her at the stake.
It’s easy to call someone a witch. Because witchcraft is (potentially) everything.
One night years ago, I came home very late to find my roommate bubbling tinctures in enormous pots. She was going to Burning Man and was preparing Chinese herbal medicine that would help friends naturally manage the heat.
I helped her clean up, sweeping the floor with a broom and washing out essentially a witches’ cauldron.
Medicine is not the only thing that witches brew.
If you make food while hoping to infuse love into it, you’re basically spell casting.
When you cut pictures from a magazine with the intention of manifesting something better, you are welcoming in collaboration with the divine in a witchy way.
If you go for a walk in nature and collect pieces of lichen and sticks and stones to place on your altar at home, you might be doing witchcraft.
Beyond that, as the 10-year-old girl noted, the simple art of trusting yourself is what witches are all about.
Listen to your body deeply.
Observe the world around you for the unseen quiet knowing within.
Dance you’re empathic body clean of all the weight of others that you’ve been carrying.
Take an Epsom salt bath.
Make art with intention.
A financial planner can be witchy about her work. I know one. It’s in the way we do things with awareness and intention.
I know a lot of witches. They are all good. That’s who I surround myself with.
Of course there are toxic witches out there as well. There is no subset of humans that does not include some unhealthy people.
The problem with the witch hunt is that it is easy to claim anyone is a witch if it’s primarily a woman with power who offers healing support to her community. Scared people who don’t have answers will look for any threat that they can scapegoat.
That’s why it’s so important that this group of 10-year-old girls gets to learn to own this word with safety and curiosity and hopefully a mentor who helps them respect the craft and only use it for good.
I felt honored to teach these girls a little with games around telepathy and setting good intentions.
This October, I hope you will welcome in your own witchy ways in your approach to the mundane daily tasks with some intention setting and intuitive knowing.
Align with some real craft during a personal tarot reading.
Get your coven together for a Tarot Together session.
Learn to trust your higher self better with an intuition coaching session.
Engage your community in connection when you hire a tarot or palm reader from Portlandia Fortune Tellers for your upcoming event. Halloween nights are filling up, so get your quote today!
Enjoy getting ready for Halloween!
Cackle Cackle,
Jenna Lynne Roberts
Spooky Season Tarot Reading
It might be harder to transition from the sun into the gray and rainy days if it didn’t also mean that we are entering the season of the witch that includes costumes galore and more tarot reading events.
Feel free to send me pics of your holiday best this month!
Get into your shadow self in a healthy way with a personal tarot reading.
Being witchy is all about developing self-trust and body awareness. Learn these skills during an intuition coaching session with me.
Have a little Halloween fun with friends when you get together for a Tarot Together reading.
Want to give your guests goosebumps this Halloween season? Hire a tarot or palm reader with Portlandia Fortune Tellers. We offer in-person entertainment in the Portland and Salem areas and with online experiences.
Scroll on for a free tarot reading for the month of October.
Cackle Cackle,
Jenna Lynne Roberts
Free Reading for October
Deck: Dark Mansion Tarot & Horror Oracle
Do you have any friends in life who knew you as a youthful person (6 of Cups), but you’ve lost touch with?
This month, at a time when we honor those who have passed away, we get a a reminder to honor the living who have fallen out of our field of connection.
in this case, the 7 of Pentacles reversed refers to a person who you lost patience with. You may have tried to shift a situation between you and they were not receptive.
In the 6 of Wands reversed, one or both of you didn’t feel seen or heard by the other. There was a dismissive behavior that lacked acknowledgement in a hurtful way. Perhaps jealousy even played a role. It’s time to attempt to heal that between you, for your own sake.
With the Hierophant card, give yourself credit for how you have grown since back then. Using wise tools, you will likely be able to better speak your mind about why you drifted away. Consider looking up videos about assertive or non-violent communication techniques (NVC) to use a system that keeps you centered and grounded.
My therapist also says that it’s best if pass along hard messages in 6 – 8 sentences. So write out what you need to say with a kindness that is as direct and clear as possible.
The Horror Oracle cards say that you have a Friendship worth salvaging that you need to Call to at least get closure with. You likely have some intense shared experiences with this person that draws you back to them. It can also nudge us to check in with mutual friends about what you want to say before reaching out.
American Werewolf in London is a reminder that we are not always our best selves with those we cherish. They often see the worst of us.
The Call from Scream is a message of warning that your friend might not receive the message well. Remember that you are doing this for your own peace of mind and you may not get the results you desire amicably. Do this for your own effort to show who you have become, rather than to push them to meet you where you’re at.
Give me a call as well to get a tarot reading that is curious about your own inner werewolf, and to consider how to approach friends who are worth facing some darkness for.
How to Spot AI
This week, I saw the cutest little set of tarot statues advertised to me on Facebook. The algorithm knows me so well.
I clicked on the shop, and something didn’t feel right. I did a google search on whether the business was legit, and it had a very low trust rating. I am not sure if those little statues are even real.
That feeling in regards to AI is called the “Uncanny Valley”. It is a form of unsettling intuition that a human image or mock up is so close to real that it’s creepy. This phrase likely will begin to be used for AI creations overall.
Today, I went and looked for the product again, and it’s on 5 more sites, but none of them have a very high trust score. Hmmmm…
My dad always says, ‘If it’s too good to be true, it likely is”.
Tarot Card images are often stolen and counterfeits are reprinted cheaper on flimsy playing card-sized decks. AI versions of popular books are being created to mimic an original. You can spot a counterfeit deck in person, but if you are buying online, please go to the original artist or publishers page.
As shopping season approaches, my not-so-psychic prediction is that there are going to be a lot of amazing products on the market that are not real. We will giddily order only to receive nothing, or a very different and lame version of it (which has already become a familiar problem).
With how good AI is, we are all going to get fooled at some point.
So my first tip is to trust your intuition. If it doesn’t feel right, do some research to see if it’s real.
Along with this are videos with deep fakes of celebrities now being possible to make of our own family and friends. Corridor Crew is a team of CGI artists who made a 16 minute video about how to spot AI in videos.
Another thing that happened this week is a woman who I was debating with made a comment with bullet points and a summary. I am not sure whether she was a bot or a real person who was cut and copying ChatGPT answers, but I knew it was AI-related answers and called her out.
Her post was too perfect in structure, the writing lacked emotion or personal nuance. The cadence didn’t match typical English.
A huge percentage of comments are now just bots trying to get attention. Reddit users say that it’s 70%. AI says it’s about 37%. It’s hard to know who to trust anymore, but your best advice is to presume the commenter may not be human.
You can spot bots by going to their profile and history:
– generic profile
– usernames often include random numbers or a generic name followed by numbers
– new account
– repetitive and unoriginal content
So don’t let the robots get you riled up with their mean politics.
I hope you can take part in doing the extra steps to make sure the information you read and the images you see are verified before sharing them with others.
You can also get AI tarot readings online. I admit they can be decent interpretations of the traditional meanings of the cards. However, they are unable to tap into psychic gift or empathy and it shows.
I do use AI for some business needs and I even recommend it. I find it useful to brainstorm marketing ideas.
Just be aware that AI can hallucinate, so you need to double-check any facts you are relying on. Like last summer when I told my friend that the lake we were going to had algae bloom because Google AI told me so. It didn’t. Uhhhh, oops.
Be conscious that AI will validate what you say. If you are using it as someone to talk to and get emotional feedback from, it can take you into a place that a human would not.
I personally write my newsletter myself every week. It will likely have flaws, but it also will have my very human voice who hopes to impart a valuable offering to you.
I am also a human who is grateful that you are a human reading this today. I know it’s a strange time, and this subject can be stressful, but remember that we are all learning a new technology together. We will likely get the hang of sussing out how to manage our interfaces with it through time.
I hope you will choose to enjoy the richness of a deeply human experience during a personal tarot reading with me.
Get real with a friend in a Tarot Together session.
Develop one of the most powerful human tools we have during an intuition coaching session.
Engage your community in connection when you hire a tarot or palm reader from Portlandia Fortune Tellers for your upcoming event.
Trust yourself to manage the future.
Beep Bop Boop Bleep,
Jenna Lynne Roberts
The Power of Now-stalgia
Being a Cancerian, I love old photographs and books. I enjoy hearing stories of different eras and watching classic black and white films.
Being nearly half a century on this earth, I now can sense the changes we have collectively been through in my own experiences.
There is something so precious about knowing how things used to be before the waves of change that came with first the internet and then smart phones. I might sound old to say it but, “Oh my goodness things are so much faster now!“
Add onto that the nature of aging and experiencing internal shifts with perimenopause or whatever health surprises life has required of each of us . . . and it’s a wonder we sense any consistency at all.
This is the 6 of Cups – a card about days gone by and childhood.
Today, I welcome you to access your own wisdom from the past.
- Sit and reflect on your daily routine when you were 10 years old, and then 20, and then 30, and so on.
- Sense your pace of life at each age and the apparent pace of those around you.
- What technologies were the cutting edge at each decade point?
- What hobbies did you enjoy at those times?
- What were you learning about yourself and the world?
- What did you enjoy most about each of these ages?
To be fair, it’s not all about good in the old days…
Let’s remember the gains we have made since then:
- What are some ways that you can see we have collectively evolved in?
- What self-improvement can you see from where you are now?
- What are some things that you like better about the modern era?
Now let’s use the Temperance card to integrate our younger and current selves.
- What is one habit or way of being from your past that you could gain from resuming in your current state?
- What advice would your current self tell your younger self?
- What advice would your younger self give your current self?
- How can you call in the best energies of the past into today?
Maybe this weekend you can choose to watch an older movie and perhaps even show a kid you love a place in time that they have never been.
Go through old photos, read antiquated poetry, or simply do some fun activities that are timeless.
Step into the current moment with a friend in a Tarot Together session.
Go down memory lane to understand the present in a personal tarot readingwith me.
Lean into the ever-knowing self in an intuition coaching session.
Take part in a centuries old art when you hire a tarot or palm reader from Portlandia Fortune Tellers for your upcoming event.
I hope you are able to relish the moments of this week while also being inspired by your memories.
Be Present with Your Past,
Jenna Lynne Roberts
Unplug: Your Soul doesn’t Scroll
I set an intention to make September about health, and I admit that it’s been a wonky start.
This week, the news feed pulled me in and I might need to log out to gain control over my wide-eyed fascination.
Yes, it is important to know what is happening in the world.
Remember though that there used to be one newspaper per day that people would read, or one news program at night.
We might have discussed details with friends and neighbors face-to-face at some point.
We did not have constant updates and ways to debate the issue with strangers or people we met once at a party in 2013.
Ask yourself: What time(s) of day is ideal for my brain to take in what is happening in the world? Can I limit myself to these hours?
Even if it’s not about news, I find myself hunting on YouTube for videos to add to my watch later collection.
The algorithm figures out what catches my attention and it’s rarely the quality of the philosophical talks that actually fulfill my mind.
I have learned to take the step to mark unhealthy videos as ‘Not Interested’ from the 3 dots on the upper right corner. No more pimple popping fixations please!
Control more of your own Feed: Mark unwanted videos as unwanted. Don’t worry, if you search for it in the future it will return. Then you can rinse and repeat.
If you can be impulsive then it’s all the more important to replace the habit of follow through when you want to grab your phone for answers too quickly.
Take a moment to pause and reflect and take a moment before automatic answers. This will train your brain to do so more naturally in general. Our brains are very good at repeating the habits we create.
Train your Speed: Slow down and consider the urgency of this desire for an immediate answer. Take 3 breaths before opening the website. Teach your brain to wait, and it will become habit more easily.
I realize that a lot of my old hobbies have been replaced with the smart phone options.
I used to draw and journal more often. I forget that I can do a quick doodle as easily as I can distract on my phone. And it’s much healthier for my brain.
One dance song (granted, it might include your phone to play it) is enough to enhance your day. And far more fun and fulfilling than social media doom scrolling.
Find Alternate Dopamine hits: Replace your phone habits with other pleasures. What brings you joy that only takes a few minutes?
Want to have a real life meaningful connection? Bring someone in for shared Tarot Together session.
Craving a deeper experience of how to make September healthy for you? Find out what a personal tarot readingcan offer.
Find your own power over your impulses during an intuition coaching session.
Welcome your community to a non-phone experience when you hire a tarot or palm reader from Portlandia Fortune Tellers.
This weekend, tune into the areas of life that you can enjoy and have real and positive influence over. Let go of the phone for a bit.
You Deserve Sanctuary,
Jenna Lynne Roberts
Photo: Ten of Swords from the Modern Witch Tarot Deck by Lisa Sterle
Receiving is as Sacred as Giving
Today is about the 6 of Pentacles, the card of healthy giving and receiving. (Lightseers Tarot version in image above)
Many of us want to give and give and give, but then struggle to welcome in the gifts others share.
Imagine you hand someone a present, and they reject it. Even if politely said, it stings a bit.
You may know their refusal is coming from a place of their own guilt or insecurity, but the energy you are emitting out is not being taken in.
That’s why it’s the most kind thing to say thank you and welcome the present or the compliment or the useful offering with a simple, ‘Thank you’.
If you truly do not want what is given, you can naturally deflect it. I have sent out previous posts about the art of saying no. This one is about saying yes to the support that can be welcomed.
An even more powerful subject in this field is the art of asking for support if you desire it.
When you are bold enough to tell your loved ones that you could use their help, it’s a statement of healthy vulnerability and trust.
This very week in 2011, I had a double rollover car accident. Afterward, I felt very alone and was frustrated at the lack of community checking in on me.
Months later, I expressed my hurt to various friends. Each of them were shocked and saddened that they didn’t realize that I needed community at that time.
I didn’t reach out, I didn’t ask. The Facebook post said I was ‘unscathed’, they figured I was fine.
My friends expressed disappointment that I didn’t directly contact them, and I realized that my stoic upbringing led to a missed opportunity.
I hope you won’t make the same mistake when you crave help.
Here are some steps to improving your ability to receive support:
– Consider some help you would like right now. Think about who would be the best fit for this support.
– Ask by checking in first on the timing. Ex: ‘Hey there, I realize that I can use some of your unique assistance in a situation. I am wondering if you might be available anytime in the upcoming weeks to lend me a hand?’
– If they can’t, graciously accept their refusal. Understand that people are busy and this may not be the best time. Move on to the next person who could be a good fit.
– If they can and do help, remember that you only need to say ‘Thank You’ so much. Know that simply feeling the gratitude and giving it sincerely a few times is enough in most cases.
– Try to not unnecessarily apologize. This can put the burden on them in managing your guilt around it. Let them feel good about helping you.
– Do not over offer a quid pro quo (this for that). You can offer it once, and if they say no, move on. The ball is in their court to take you up on your return offer after it has been put out there.
– If they do go above and beyond, see if they welcome a meal or small gesture as a thank you, or send them a thank you card.
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This weekend, treat yourself to a ponder on how you can ask and receive better from others this weekend.
Let Goodness In,
Jenna Lynne Roberts
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